The question is………….Should we need to force our kids??
The answer may vary from parent to parent. Someone will say we shouldn’t force them to do anything which is not of their choice and some will agree to force them for their good. But in most of the cases, we have seen that generally parents, especially mothers, always force their kids to eat different types of food, as it’s good for their health, or ask them to spend less time with the person whom they don’t like and father force their kids to study a particular subject and focus more on studies rather than spending time in games and other activities.
What is needed here is that as a parent we should try to understand our kids i.e. what they want, what are their choices, how they feel when we force them. Are our forcing leading them to feel irritated in life with us??
When we try to do a self-evaluation we will find that the answer will be a ‘yes’ in most cases, whenever we try to force them to eat or to study but they are in a mood to play or to do anything else. We should sometime listen to them, after all, they are kids otherwise we can keep some condition like if you have your food on time I will give you extra time to play or I will make your favourite dish on the coming Sunday. I think many of us do the latter one to make sure that our kids do what we wish.
The need is to tackle them very carefully so that they by themselves get ready to do the things which we wanted them to do.
In my perception, I feel by forcefully we can ask them to do the things for some time but that is not going to do any good as once they see that we are not looking at them they will do what they want instead of the things that we have asked them to do.
For that, we have to teach them how to be discipline and a responsible person. A discipline chart to be maintained for food timing, for food dishes and for study time also. I know we can’t handle everything but we can’t force also them every time, so we need to set up some time for a few things.
Remember forcing can lead them to get irritated or they can become stubborn. So it’s important that we should give them the time and space that they need. For example, let Sunday be there day. Let them do whatever they want to do like playing or indulging in their favorite hobby and let them eat whatever they want to eat. Let them give a place where they can feel free and good from the heart.
Let me also know your views what do you feel?
How you tackle your kids?
Do you force them to study or eat any particular food ?
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