We intend to seek perfection in whatever we do in our lives. This is basic human nature and when this perfection is not achieved, we get disappointed easily. What we need to understand is that we should not keep our expectation levels high with ourselves and from the tasks we do. Lower the level, lower the disappointment. One such important task of our life is ‘parenting’. This is one task that is very tricky.
Parents make their best efforts to grow their children and take utmost care. They provide the best of food, education, clothing and atmosphere at home to their child and make the kid’s life comfortable and help them become a good person and achieve big things in life.
Despite all the things sometimes the kids fall into the bad company and their life starts to move in the wrong direction.
This doesn’t mean that the parenting was wrong. No one can’t control all the things in his life but they can surely make conscious efforts to do so. At the same time, the parents should not get disappointed with their efforts.
We can try to guide our kid’s life in the right direction through the following ways.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE –
Kids imitate their parents. Therefore, it becomes most important for the parents to lead by example for their kids. They should be polite, display good habits to their kids so that the kids can follow their parent’s good habits.
SPEND TIME WITH THE KIDS –
The most important gift a parent can give to their kid is their time. Life is tough and it is difficult for the parents to make the ends meet. Still, the parents should make conscious efforts to spend more time with their kids. Kids feel happy when they see that their parents love spending time with them and then the kids seek people outside their home. The kids should not feel lonely.
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WANT AND NEED –
Kid’s minds are vulnerable. They are easily attracted towards the toys / gadgets which they might see on TV commercials or with the other kids and then they want it badly. Sometimes, they become very stubborn with their demand. At this time the parents should talk to their kids and make them understand if the kid really needs the toy or is it just a want arising out of attraction. If the kid understands this concept then this will help him in taking decisions throughout his life.
MAKE THEM PRAY–
Make it a habit for your kids to pray regularly. Again, this can be done by leading by example. Praying provides a lot of emotional strengths.
Well, there can be many more ways through which we can guide our child’s life in the right direction but again at the same time, we shouldn’t be too harsh on ourselves regarding the outcome of the efforts. The word ‘perfection’ in itself is a myth. I believe as parents we should strive to become good parents instead of perfect parents